Deborah Darling by Rakesh Mistry.
Despite being labeled as digitally ‘out-of-touch’ research shows baby boomers are spending more time online than any other generation, viewing social media as having a positive impact on their lives. It should come as no surprise that Facebook is the most popular social hangout for women over fifty in Australia, but for those of us that might not be as au fait on the interwebs as we would like, Deborah Chambers proffers a little insight as to how social media just like a millenial.

A young friend of mine, let’s call her Sarah, ‘friended’ her mum on Facebook. In her enthusiasm, Sarah’s Mum proceeded to like and comment on all of Sarah’s, and her friends’ posts. Exasperated, one of Sarah’s friends commented ‘Your Mother is all over Facebook, WTF!!’ Sarah’s mum, slightly puzzled asked, ‘What does WTF mean, dear?’

Sarah, quick off the mark replied, ‘It means Welcome To Facebook Mum’. (Before swiftly unfriending her, no doubt.)

I love this story, but it does highlight the fact that social media can be fraught with danger, especially for new users, and with around five new Facebook profiles being created every second, what better time for a grandmother to deliver a couple of pointers to help preserve your street cred? Disclaimer – Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or to real Facebook posts, is purely factual, and truthfully, some may even have happened to me.

The dinner party theory.

IMHO Facebook should be seen as a place to connect and stay in touch with people we know or have met, to gently share ideas and explore thoughts, to entertain and amuse, much the same as being at a dinner party.

It is a space where we may be interacting with a mixed bag of people, some of whom we may know very well, who may share similar values and beliefs, and some people we may not know at all. Some who may come from vastly different backgrounds and have had different experiences to ours.

In keeping with the dinner party theory, we should do our best to be polite and respectful to our fellow guests, whilst being interesting and interested guests ourselves.

Some things to consider that hardly ever go down well at a gorgeous dinner party? Showing too many photographs of our pets, children, holiday, a new lover, or garden. One good shot really is quite enough. And showing any photographs of meals we’ve eaten – no matter how delicious. Long, deathly dull or too detailed stories are guaranteed to relegate us straight to the B list. A list only one rung higher than the one for all the racists, sexists, conspiracy theorists, and general know-it-alls – a place from where we’ll be lucky even to crack the nod to the odd children’s school concert. A social fate seemingly worse than death itself.

Deborah Chambers by Natalie Field.

Deborah Chambers by Natalie Field.

A lovely soirée is not the place to vent negativity, no matter the motivation. Publicising your own private, yet very public, pity party and then sulking until others feel obliged to ask what the problem is, is not going to score you another invite. In Facebook terms, posting short, cryptic updates, with a hint of woe is me is known as ‘vague-booking’.

We should also never raise our voices at a dinner party. This translates as the overuse of capital letters in our posts or comments, which is seen to be ‘shouty’. Not very cool.

FYI — Acronyms are cool.

Once you get the hang of things on social you can start to show how hip, hop and happening you are by peppering your posts with some cool acronyms. IDK them all, but you will be able to Google an extensive list to make sure that you are all that. YW. HTH.

A special mention for LOL.

The meaning of this acronym has morphed since the days we signed off notes passed in class, as Lots of Love. Now universally accepted to mean Laugh out Loud, one should avoid posting ‘Thinking of you, LOL’ in response to the news your friend’s pet has died. (While on this subject, that emoji with tears coming out of both eyes isn’t crying, he’s laughing hysterically, so don’t use that one either.)

Stalking old partners.

Such fun. Checking how they look, and who they ended up with. However, do be very careful not to accidentally click a like, or worse, a love, while you’re zooming in on a photo of them with their new partner. #awkward.

One final caution.

If your Facebook relationship status is set to ‘single’, do expect to be inundated with friend requests from some impossibly handsome, greying at the temples widowers who happened to come across your profile, love your smile, and would really like to get to know you better.

They invariably have one adorable young child, and are stationed in some far-off sandy place, risking life and limb to keep us all safe. They may even be wearing camouflage in their profile photo. Or they might be one of those keen to award you with an inheritance that you weren’t aware was coming. Which is all the proof you need really. ROFL.




Deborah Chambers is a mature model, style addict, vintage shop freak and self-professed show-off. She is on a mission to inspire older women to be everything they want to be.